Jobs, and the Fear of being Great

Creatives, we call ourselves.

Artists, we call ourselves.

Freelancers, we call ourselves.

We are tomorrow, if we believe.

We sleep late, we try to wake up early, we socialise less than we should. Our computers, pens, pencils, paintbrushes become our tools of priority. Food, exercise, communication somehow falls behind. Maybe not all of these, maybe just some but we alone know who we are and what we are doing.

Jobs. This is where our lives are turned upside down. We want our dream job now and we strive to get it, building portfolios, showreels and many creative CVs. But sometimes non of it seems to make a difference. I am going to focus on one aspect of why we seem to fail at getting jobs. This aspect is why i fail to find a job and many i know who can relate. We all have a safety net, that one place we know we feel safe even when we know we should not be in there. Be it a neglected child, an only child, or simply the youngest child. Of course there are many reasons and ways we have safety nets but i am not a genius, i am not a philosopher, nor a psychologist. I am just a man trying to help people.

The neglected child wants to be loved, the only child wants a sibling and the youngest child wishes to have been a older child. In conjunction, the neglected child finds the seclusion a way of hiding away until some attention is thrown his/her way on which he/her thrives on; the only child finds safety in the attention of his/her parents; and the youngest finds safety in simply being the youngest, although they may have the elders to build up to as an expectation, they do indeed find safety in the protection of them. Many of us do this and these are major factors in why we don’t get jobs and often fail in other things. Of course there are many other reasons, but i am focusing especially on these for i have encountered these in life one time or another. It may seem a little farfetched but if i have experienced it then it is safe to say that it is exists and that i am not alone.

It is time to change things. It is time to become legends in the making, because trust me, we can. But we must start by throwing away our shackles. We must put ourselves into our fears. Fear doesn’t have to be something bad that we are scared of. A close friend of mines made me realise how much we fear the great things in life. How although it may sound weird, we fear getting the perfect job, we fear the overload of what are trying to get in the first place, we fear becoming any greater than we currently are. It’s amazing how we can fear the things we want. So, we sit there day in day out, applying for jobs without any real enthusiasm, any real motivation and any real determination. We can even go as far as making ourselves believe we have all of the above, when in fact we’re simply storing it, hiding it, fearing what might happen if enthusiasm, motivation and determination grips us and propels us forward.

It is time to put ourselves into our fears. Where the neglected child says,

“No more hiding in safety, it’s time to get my job, to start from the beginning and work my way up to greatness, and only then will i realise that i have friends and people around that will see me and be inspired; and no longer will i be alone or unloved.”

Where the only child says,

“No more using my parents as safety, it’s time to get my job, step out into the world and realise that amongst the crowds of humanity, i can stand out, i can meet people, become great and spread the knowledge and message around the globe because after all we are never alone.”

And where the youngest child says,

“No more hiding as youngest, no more using the safety of being smothered and protected by the elders, for in mind, i too am an elder and i believe it; and with this i will get the job i need right now to work my way up to greatness; and i can show the world that the timidness of the youngest can explode out over the globe in great awe.”

I hope you can see how these three case studies can be utilised for many others. It is time we stopped fearing about being in the world and experiencing the scary adventure that is laid in front of us. It’s time to believe in ourselves and simply step out there. Only once we are out there in the career wilderness will we gain the experience we need to travel further; and you never know what surprises you may find yourself in, what job you’ll find the opportunity to work in, and what people you’ll meet, and in return inspire. Our aspirations are not prisons, but the key to our success. Today marks the day i will no longer hide in my room, behind my computer, travelling only in cyberspace and waiting for my salvation. I am going out, reaching for my own salvation and becoming the legend i have always wanted to be.

Come, join me.

Thank you for reading.

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A Purposeful Purpose

It has been a while since i have blogged. Mostly because i lost purpose. It happens to so many of us, unexpected and full of difficulties. A purpose it seems is that one thing that you know you want to and will do and will feel that if life had ended, that you would feel happy that you have done so. There seem to be many purposes too, not just the one life purpose but a career purpose and home purpose and self purpose and many others.

After my birthday went i had lost most of them but as time went by and things became much more alone, i realised that it is ok to not know. Not knowing doesn’t mean you are missing something. It means you have another surprise waiting for you. I do video editing, creative writing, a bit of web design, script writing, comic developing, drawing and am even trying to get into voice acting. So many things and i don’t even know which one is the real one or the one i meant to be living through, so i do all of them. right know i am feeling the writing more, but i always like drawing and video editing is a profession i seem to be good at. Sometimes wanting a purpose, wanting to feel like you have a dream that you can acquire is all you desire, takes up all your time. But i have realised that this is all possible.

The one thing that i have realised and embraced more than anything is you don’t have to force yourself, you don’t have to listen to the person telling you that you need to do this thing now and leave the others, whether it be you or someone else. No. All you have to do is know what you love. If you don’t know that then experiment and learn new things and i am sure you will find something, for i believe there is always something and someone for each of us. At one moment in time you will come across something or someone (not just career wise), and when you do just know that if you love doing this one thing or you love this one thing, then it is your passion for it that will help you through. Some may say “well how it passion going to make you successful”. The thing that so many forget is that to do things we often need a drive. Nope not a Jaguar, but passion is all we need. Passion is a form of motivation that drives us, and if you grasp it, it will drive you, motivate you and even be that strict priotiser that makes you work hard. Why would you strictly work hard? Because you love doing it. This aspiration becomes a force that will drive you so far forward. Sometimes we even have a passion to do things but there is still something missing. One example i am sure i will come across, is that sometimes we need someone to share the things we love, and that is another purpose, someone. This i believe is the hardest purpose in existence. But nevertheless it can all be achieved and no one in this world has to leave not having acquired these purposes.

At the end of it all it is okay to not know if you have a purpose in something or even in life, because when the time comes and you give it your best throughout, that purpose will be there visible or invisible. Just trust yourself, trust your passion.

 

The Mysterious Symbol

Up and Atom!

Cheese & Crackers! My blog has launched out into the network of networks!. It’s times like these when you start to wonder if anything is coming out of all the things you do. But maybe they do… maybe we just don’t realize.

Well… Here it is, a blog launched by a red, cheese loving freak. Hmm… Red Cheese now that’d be something. But yes here it is. So many times i thought to myself, what should i do in life, where do i want my career path to go and i still don’t fully know. But a special someone told me to start a blog and i thought, “hmmm…not sure if i’m cut out to be a blogger.” But then i thought why not. I’ll never know until i try. To show the world my opinions, stories and work; and even give the world a few pointers about anything and everything along the way.

And KABLAMM! It starts! I hope this catches the interest of many people out there who somehow find my crazy talk somehow pleasing and comprehendible. Thanks for reading!

 

R