Troubles and Toleration

We all go through troubles in our life time, however big or small. Sometimes we simply feel that they are just too big to deal with. But in the end we make it…right? Year after year we tell ourselves that life could not bring me anything more troublesome, and we begin to expect better things until SHMACK! Another even more difficult situation.

I thought to myself the other day. How do we seem to make it in life when troubles just seem to get bigger and more worse to deal with. I recently had a difficulty i thought not possible for recovery. Then i thought to myself, well maybe it’s as simple as, we get stronger the more we face more difficult trouble. So in a way we tolerate, conquer and surpass more as time goes by, become stronger as time goes by.

If we so choose it.

It’s like a line graph showing an upward correlation of two parallel lines, being of course Troubles and Tolerance. So as life becomes harder, it seems we learn from the troubles and in return evolve into stronger individuals. It also reminds me of a sound waveform fluctuating. The waveform fluctuates up and down through the air, expanding in both the higher frequencies and lower frequencies. The frequencies here show the ups and downs of life. Putting the two together gives you the notion that although life may fluctuate with good times and bad times; ultimately pulling you into a state of flux; if we so choose to fight it and learn from it, then we can fight the troubles and become stronger and stronger in each battle. And of course as much as we would like to believe, the troubles of life will never end. We must simply get used to it. To tolerate, to be patient and to endure. All words correlating to fight through it.

I guess there are two things i can think of to take from this. One being that choice is at the heart of troubles. Choosing to give up seems to result in a backward plummet until we face a situation of equal peril, until we eventually decide to fight it, inevitably becoming stronger. Making that choice however is the tough part. So many of us choose to give up, or even give up before we’ve even started, but that is where my second point comes in, having faith in ourselves. By seeing that troubles and tolerance go hand-in-hand, we can understand that we are eventually going to make it, if we choose to. And do we want to make it, of course we do; we have dreams and aspirations. We want them and so we know we are going to have to work for them, fight for them and make sacrifices for them. I believe that everyone in the world wants something, dreams about something. Therefore our choice is made. We want to make it through. It’s almost like we subconsciously choose it. To have made that choice so subconsciously means that somewhere in our minds buried deep, is our belief. Believing we can get through it. I think that’s the toughest part, but once you tap into that part of yourself -and it is in all of us- then troubles becomes secondary and is no longer the dominant part of your head or even life. A life will never stop throwing difficulties our way. Ultimately i believe that the harder the difficulties, the more we have to learn. And learn we will. In time.

 

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Jobs, and the Fear of being Great

Creatives, we call ourselves.

Artists, we call ourselves.

Freelancers, we call ourselves.

We are tomorrow, if we believe.

We sleep late, we try to wake up early, we socialise less than we should. Our computers, pens, pencils, paintbrushes become our tools of priority. Food, exercise, communication somehow falls behind. Maybe not all of these, maybe just some but we alone know who we are and what we are doing.

Jobs. This is where our lives are turned upside down. We want our dream job now and we strive to get it, building portfolios, showreels and many creative CVs. But sometimes non of it seems to make a difference. I am going to focus on one aspect of why we seem to fail at getting jobs. This aspect is why i fail to find a job and many i know who can relate. We all have a safety net, that one place we know we feel safe even when we know we should not be in there. Be it a neglected child, an only child, or simply the youngest child. Of course there are many reasons and ways we have safety nets but i am not a genius, i am not a philosopher, nor a psychologist. I am just a man trying to help people.

The neglected child wants to be loved, the only child wants a sibling and the youngest child wishes to have been a older child. In conjunction, the neglected child finds the seclusion a way of hiding away until some attention is thrown his/her way on which he/her thrives on; the only child finds safety in the attention of his/her parents; and the youngest finds safety in simply being the youngest, although they may have the elders to build up to as an expectation, they do indeed find safety in the protection of them. Many of us do this and these are major factors in why we don’t get jobs and often fail in other things. Of course there are many other reasons, but i am focusing especially on these for i have encountered these in life one time or another. It may seem a little farfetched but if i have experienced it then it is safe to say that it is exists and that i am not alone.

It is time to change things. It is time to become legends in the making, because trust me, we can. But we must start by throwing away our shackles. We must put ourselves into our fears. Fear doesn’t have to be something bad that we are scared of. A close friend of mines made me realise how much we fear the great things in life. How although it may sound weird, we fear getting the perfect job, we fear the overload of what are trying to get in the first place, we fear becoming any greater than we currently are. It’s amazing how we can fear the things we want. So, we sit there day in day out, applying for jobs without any real enthusiasm, any real motivation and any real determination. We can even go as far as making ourselves believe we have all of the above, when in fact we’re simply storing it, hiding it, fearing what might happen if enthusiasm, motivation and determination grips us and propels us forward.

It is time to put ourselves into our fears. Where the neglected child says,

“No more hiding in safety, it’s time to get my job, to start from the beginning and work my way up to greatness, and only then will i realise that i have friends and people around that will see me and be inspired; and no longer will i be alone or unloved.”

Where the only child says,

“No more using my parents as safety, it’s time to get my job, step out into the world and realise that amongst the crowds of humanity, i can stand out, i can meet people, become great and spread the knowledge and message around the globe because after all we are never alone.”

And where the youngest child says,

“No more hiding as youngest, no more using the safety of being smothered and protected by the elders, for in mind, i too am an elder and i believe it; and with this i will get the job i need right now to work my way up to greatness; and i can show the world that the timidness of the youngest can explode out over the globe in great awe.”

I hope you can see how these three case studies can be utilised for many others. It is time we stopped fearing about being in the world and experiencing the scary adventure that is laid in front of us. It’s time to believe in ourselves and simply step out there. Only once we are out there in the career wilderness will we gain the experience we need to travel further; and you never know what surprises you may find yourself in, what job you’ll find the opportunity to work in, and what people you’ll meet, and in return inspire. Our aspirations are not prisons, but the key to our success. Today marks the day i will no longer hide in my room, behind my computer, travelling only in cyberspace and waiting for my salvation. I am going out, reaching for my own salvation and becoming the legend i have always wanted to be.

Come, join me.

Thank you for reading.